
Yesterday, a neighbor asked me for my thoughts on what to do stop rumination. She explained that she liked her corporate job and could easily “detach” and stop working on her days off, but even if she wasn’t working, she still ruminated about her job tasks after work and through the weekends.
My first instinct was to talk about external systems — task capture, workflows, the Notion setup I swear by. But even as I was speaking, I felt a quickening in my body to shift gears.
That’s when I asked her if she journals. She laughed and said she doesn’t mean to be rude, but she has recently tried to journal and felt it was not doing anything. She feels she has nothing to say. She asked herself why she should write this stuff down when it’s usually just a big list of what she did yesterday and what she needs to do today.
I shared how journaling from the stream of consciousness might seem boring and pointless, but it’s giving our brain a chance to dump all of those ruminating thoughts onto the page. As we get those looping thoughts out, we create space for more meaningful thoughts and feelings. We free up bandwidth that allows us to get curious about ourselves. Journaling can help us attune to what we actually want in life.
This is the place to practice telling ourselves the truth. It’s best to assume no one will ever read these journals – not even you. Be that honest. If you are concerned about someone else reading, burn it when you finish if that feels good. It’s not about creating a document, it’s about the process of getting the thoughts out on the page.
Journaling is a powerful way to increase your mind’s capacity for more of the things you actually want to think about and do. If you have tried it many times before and just lose steam for it, give yourself another chance.
Try what I recommended to my neighbor:
Give your thoughts somewhere to go. Ten minutes, a blank page, no audience. That’s enough to start changing what your mind reaches for by default.
If this resonates, I share a weekly note called Override for leaders and their teams who have been overriding their bodies and are ready for a better way. Stories from my own journey, somatic practices to shift your state, and practical guidance on what changes when you stop pushing through. Sign up for Override for emails on Tuesdays.
Read full Post